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A few months ago I sent out an e-mail to my extended family about my situation. The e-mail contained nothing more and nothing less than they needed to know. I don’t have any close ties with either sides of the family, they’re all kind people (though sometimes a bit loud). A few relatives replied to that e-mail, all respectful, which I can probably give my dad credit for.
So this past weekend my parents celebrated their birthdays together, so quite a bunch of family came over and it was their first time seeing me after starting hormone treatment and visibly presenting myself as female. I sat there with them all evening, except for the 10 minutes that I had to do some dishwashing. Over the evening I hadn’t noticed any negative responses to my appearance/presence. Not everyone spoke with me but that’s not abnormal with these birthdays. With a few relatives I had short conversations about me and at one instance I was in the spotlight of the general conversation, though that was quite early on in the evening so not all guests were there. In general I have little to no reason to complain about how my relatives repsond to me, yes it is awkward for them, but it is not like they cannot or do not want to deal with the my changed situation.
And as written in a previous post, even my grandma is eager to be true to whom I am, for which I really love her. Other family members might not be that dedicated to me, but so what, it’s not like I’m that dedicated to them in everything they live thtough. It’s good enough that they accept me for whom I am and at least try to call me by my name.
When I grow older I’ll most probably grow apart from them, I will have my own life, might just migrate and have my own family like hopefully my brother and sister will have too. They mean so much more to me, as will my future cousins then will mean a whole lot to me. I don’t mind growing apart from my parents families, I trust that they will have good lives in which there is no need for me to play a role. They will always keep thinking of me as that quiet nephew, no doubt, but I don’t mind, it’s part of what I’m going through. I can’t control everything, the only reason why I would want to control my relatives opinion and view of me is their relation to my parents. I do not want to be the reason why anyone would not want to see and speak my parents anymore. By the way, transsexualism isn’t that unoridinary anymore!